Even shorter and sweeter! (really really sweet!)
Today, I’m simply sharing a post from ‘Tut … Notes from the Universe’ (google it, you’ll be happy you did)
When YOU raise the bar, *fill in your name here*, I jump higher.
Ready?
The Universe
Get Ready.
Gain Clarity.
(What do YOU WANT?)
Then … Raise It, Baby!!
Yeeeeeeeeeeee Haaaaaaaaaaw!!
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Ahhhhh ... Clarity
So ... I'm grooving on that familiar feeling of what 'true' clarity feels like. (true is in quotes because I mean 'true to me' ... YOU know what 'true to you' feels like)
Anyway, decision clarity (for me ... and perhaps for MANY) has one insano-important quality about it: JOY!
Simple.
If there is doubt, convincing (either in or out of any given situation), waffling, debating, waffling some more ... we'll then, the clarity you seek hasn't quite arrived yet.
When the JOY overcomes the natural fears associated with change ... it's time to ACT.
And, at that point, you'll likely act with a wide grin on your face and peace in your heart/body.
Now, not all of life's decisions lend themselves to such ease. (and sometimes coming to this point of ease or knowingness regarding larger decisions often takes some good ol' time; to process and to find your own way toward what good-decision-making feels like for YOU)
So ... here's what I am loving about it (all):
As I've made (and make) many-a-decision along the way, I realize that what used to be my preferred methodology (knee-jerk!!) has shifted a bit. I've come to realize what GOOD and TRUE TO ME decisions feel like in my body and being. I've come to know when to slow and LISTEN ... and when to JUMP.
So I'll end by saying (again) ... JOY!
When feelings of JOY overpower other feelings ... JUMP for the love of all things sacred!
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
Anyway, decision clarity (for me ... and perhaps for MANY) has one insano-important quality about it: JOY!
Simple.
If there is doubt, convincing (either in or out of any given situation), waffling, debating, waffling some more ... we'll then, the clarity you seek hasn't quite arrived yet.
When the JOY overcomes the natural fears associated with change ... it's time to ACT.
And, at that point, you'll likely act with a wide grin on your face and peace in your heart/body.
Now, not all of life's decisions lend themselves to such ease. (and sometimes coming to this point of ease or knowingness regarding larger decisions often takes some good ol' time; to process and to find your own way toward what good-decision-making feels like for YOU)
So ... here's what I am loving about it (all):
As I've made (and make) many-a-decision along the way, I realize that what used to be my preferred methodology (knee-jerk!!) has shifted a bit. I've come to realize what GOOD and TRUE TO ME decisions feel like in my body and being. I've come to know when to slow and LISTEN ... and when to JUMP.
So I'll end by saying (again) ... JOY!
When feelings of JOY overpower other feelings ... JUMP for the love of all things sacred!
Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Grass is Always Greener
The grass is always greener on the other side, right!
Wait, right?
Well … isn’t it all a matter of PERSPECTIVE?
CBS Sunday Morning (a lovely show) covered this very topic. In a straight-forward and oh-so-logical way … It IS what it IS.
Read on if you so choose …
When you are looking at your neighbors grass, the angle at which you view it makes it appear greener than when looking down at your own grass from on top of it. Simple truth. Makes sense, right?
Hmmmmmm?
Wouldn’t this also apply to all the ways in which we may use this “grass is always greener over there” story?
Isn’t it, again, just a matter of PERSPECTIVE?
And, can’t we instead decide to work on OUR perspective on things? To realize that maybe we aren’t seeing “the other” as clearly or with as much awareness as we could. And, what about the clarity and awareness with which we are looking at “our own grass?”
I don’t know about you … but it gets me thinking. (and smiling a sly, knowing smile)
A. Comparing OURS to THEIRS is pretty silly and futile
B. We have no control over THEIRS, so might as well place focus instead on OURS
C. What kind of focus is key, too. Loving and consistent focus. Regular care and water. Ahhh, but not stifling, over-obsessive or over-bearing. Instead … LIGHTNESS and HUMOR (I know … this last comment doesn’t lend itself to the lawn analogy … but we’re not really talking about that anyway, right?!)
WINK and LOVE!
Wait, right?
Well … isn’t it all a matter of PERSPECTIVE?
CBS Sunday Morning (a lovely show) covered this very topic. In a straight-forward and oh-so-logical way … It IS what it IS.
Read on if you so choose …
When you are looking at your neighbors grass, the angle at which you view it makes it appear greener than when looking down at your own grass from on top of it. Simple truth. Makes sense, right?
Hmmmmmm?
Wouldn’t this also apply to all the ways in which we may use this “grass is always greener over there” story?
Isn’t it, again, just a matter of PERSPECTIVE?
And, can’t we instead decide to work on OUR perspective on things? To realize that maybe we aren’t seeing “the other” as clearly or with as much awareness as we could. And, what about the clarity and awareness with which we are looking at “our own grass?”
I don’t know about you … but it gets me thinking. (and smiling a sly, knowing smile)
A. Comparing OURS to THEIRS is pretty silly and futile
B. We have no control over THEIRS, so might as well place focus instead on OURS
C. What kind of focus is key, too. Loving and consistent focus. Regular care and water. Ahhh, but not stifling, over-obsessive or over-bearing. Instead … LIGHTNESS and HUMOR (I know … this last comment doesn’t lend itself to the lawn analogy … but we’re not really talking about that anyway, right?!)
WINK and LOVE!
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Little Life Gems: Youth
One of my favorite books is a compilation of short (travel) stories written by David Yeadon. It's called Way of the Wanderer. Periodically throughout the book he shares what he calls 'Pub Pearls' ... bits of wisdom he comes-by while spending time in local pubs wherever his travels may take him. I always loved that concept. Because indeed ... pearls of wisdom are oft found when:
a. in a lovely relaxed atmosphere
b. in a lovely relaxed state of mind
c. when travelling to new places, are open, and introduced to "the different"
d. and yes ... sometimes when we've had a few! wink and ahhhhh!
Anyway, lately I've been finding myself inspired by little things along my days' path. Not so much Pub Pearls, I shall call mine (for the purpose of this post) 'Little Life Gems.' I'll also share that it wasn't until writing this that I realized they share a bit of a common denominator, if you will. (Hmmmmm? What is life trying to say to ME?! Smiles.)
Kindly indulge me as I list a few on the topic of YOUTH:
1) Jake .. the ol' dog. This dog is old. The chocolate lab that has surely enjoyed a LONG life filled with fetch, fun and family (two boys in the home). He's now grey. Oh-so-mellow. And, sadly, cannot get around very well at all. Oh, those darn aging hips! A friend of mine tossed the tennis ball a bit in front of Jake, and WOW how the puppy in him came alive! No, he couldn't get to the ball with any amount of speed or grace, but he got there none-the-less. And, he got there while wagging that old tail of his with what seemed to me the same gusto of a young, spry, playful pup. (the kind of wag that causes the Elvis-like swaying of doggy hips. hee!) Thanks, Jake. You were a joy to watch!
2) Along similar lines, I enjoyed a brief (heart-felt) conversation with a co-worker as he described an all-ages dance class he taught. How the distinction of age seemed to melt away as his participants danced. Not so much the young kiddos (of 3 or 4) acting older ... rather, the older participants 'acting like children'... the youth they emanated. Nice!
3) Finally, two of my daughters playmates were having a 3-yr-old scuffle at the park. Arms were crossed. Fists were firmly placed on hips. A few kicks were administered (the placement of which would cause an adult male to cringe!). This head-butting continued for a greater portion of the time these two spent together. When time to leave, here's what was said/done:
Boy: softens his fists-on-hips stance, smiles and says: "I'll miss you."
Girl: looks momentarily confused, uncrosses arms, turns her head and bats her eye lashes like a Hollywood pro (seriously!), smiles and says: "I'll miss you, too." Got to love it!
Gets me thinking about the concept of youth and youthfulness, regardless of age. We all know what that looks like. More importantly, may we all have MANY moments of knowing what that feels like!
Gets me thinking, too, about how we can learn from anyone ... young or 'old.'
Ahhhh, Youth!
Giggle.
a. in a lovely relaxed atmosphere
b. in a lovely relaxed state of mind
c. when travelling to new places, are open, and introduced to "the different"
d. and yes ... sometimes when we've had a few! wink and ahhhhh!
Anyway, lately I've been finding myself inspired by little things along my days' path. Not so much Pub Pearls, I shall call mine (for the purpose of this post) 'Little Life Gems.' I'll also share that it wasn't until writing this that I realized they share a bit of a common denominator, if you will. (Hmmmmm? What is life trying to say to ME?! Smiles.)
Kindly indulge me as I list a few on the topic of YOUTH:
1) Jake .. the ol' dog. This dog is old. The chocolate lab that has surely enjoyed a LONG life filled with fetch, fun and family (two boys in the home). He's now grey. Oh-so-mellow. And, sadly, cannot get around very well at all. Oh, those darn aging hips! A friend of mine tossed the tennis ball a bit in front of Jake, and WOW how the puppy in him came alive! No, he couldn't get to the ball with any amount of speed or grace, but he got there none-the-less. And, he got there while wagging that old tail of his with what seemed to me the same gusto of a young, spry, playful pup. (the kind of wag that causes the Elvis-like swaying of doggy hips. hee!) Thanks, Jake. You were a joy to watch!
2) Along similar lines, I enjoyed a brief (heart-felt) conversation with a co-worker as he described an all-ages dance class he taught. How the distinction of age seemed to melt away as his participants danced. Not so much the young kiddos (of 3 or 4) acting older ... rather, the older participants 'acting like children'... the youth they emanated. Nice!
3) Finally, two of my daughters playmates were having a 3-yr-old scuffle at the park. Arms were crossed. Fists were firmly placed on hips. A few kicks were administered (the placement of which would cause an adult male to cringe!). This head-butting continued for a greater portion of the time these two spent together. When time to leave, here's what was said/done:
Boy: softens his fists-on-hips stance, smiles and says: "I'll miss you."
Girl: looks momentarily confused, uncrosses arms, turns her head and bats her eye lashes like a Hollywood pro (seriously!), smiles and says: "I'll miss you, too." Got to love it!
Gets me thinking about the concept of youth and youthfulness, regardless of age. We all know what that looks like. More importantly, may we all have MANY moments of knowing what that feels like!
Gets me thinking, too, about how we can learn from anyone ... young or 'old.'
Ahhhh, Youth!
Giggle.
Thursday, May 5, 2011
New Routine
Okay ... whether starting or RE-starting (wink and smile) ... there are a few things to keep in mind when setting any type of routine for yourself.
A. Choose wisely! (do you at least mildly enjoy what you're intending to accomplish? is it self-LIFTING? does it feed a larger, more important goal of yours? All of these are good questions to ask. Add a few important-to-you factors here.)
B. Small, bite-sized changes, please! (for the love of all things sacred, don't attempt to fly to the moon on the first go! start small. start manageable. start FUN. little bite-sized changes or additions in your day ... like the pebble in the pond, people!)
C. Prioritize and Commit! (what comes first? (suggestion: YOU), and commit darn it! Nuff said. wink.)
D. Be Flexible/Nimble! (don't be afraid to adjust in a Perfectly-You manner as you forge ahead)
DONE.
Short and Sweet.
(gots to go ... I prioritized some small, bite-sized goals/changes and committed to them. This blog, today, was one of them. Forging on!)
A. Choose wisely! (do you at least mildly enjoy what you're intending to accomplish? is it self-LIFTING? does it feed a larger, more important goal of yours? All of these are good questions to ask. Add a few important-to-you factors here.)
B. Small, bite-sized changes, please! (for the love of all things sacred, don't attempt to fly to the moon on the first go! start small. start manageable. start FUN. little bite-sized changes or additions in your day ... like the pebble in the pond, people!)
C. Prioritize and Commit! (what comes first? (suggestion: YOU), and commit darn it! Nuff said. wink.)
D. Be Flexible/Nimble! (don't be afraid to adjust in a Perfectly-You manner as you forge ahead)
DONE.
Short and Sweet.
(gots to go ... I prioritized some small, bite-sized goals/changes and committed to them. This blog, today, was one of them. Forging on!)
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Lit Up!
Really ... it's more like I'm all a-flush. My face fills with color. My heart lifts. I'm all smiles. About what? About doing what I love! Ahhhhh, yeah! The past month has been a period of "get er done," if you will. A cognoscente stage of getting through some of life's necessary happenings (sick child, new job, challenging projects, etc.) A phase where you are sure to fit in what you can ... by way of what you love. Yet knowing that there will be more time for it again later. Sooooo ... It's Later! :) My first day back at my coaching, blogging, "me-work" had me noticing not only the mental/ emotional effects (the lift!), but too ... the visceral, physical effects. After a "perfectly-me" kind of morning with an accountability-friend-meet-up and coaching clients ... I look in the mirror to find my face all a-flush. Feeling that 'good-warm' I feel when talking about and doing what I so enjoy! Simply put .... LIT UP! (and no ... there was no alcohol or hot yoga at play. smiles) Talk about validation for moving in the direction of my heart, my passions, my strengths when it comes to career choices. It is oh-so-helpful to notice those things that bring LIFT. (yeah ... fit more of that into your days, keep going in that direction) What are some things that LIGHT YOU UP?
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Detachment and FUN
Seems a strange combo, right?
Detachment and FUN.
The reason I chose to group them together is that, as of late, (as I mature, grow, gain wisdom and functional tools), these two things STAND OUT as some of the most helpful "life-management" tools for me.
Looking back is always insight-full, right? When you can see more clearly your path ... which may include how you integrated an idea that perhaps you came across any number of times along the way.
Allow me to use DETACHMENT to get this point across. I've read many-a-passage, article, blurb, book that broached the idea of healthy detachment.
This idea of not being attached to anything, really.
This does not mean that we do not have hopes, cares, things for which we strive, etc.
Rather a healthy separation from such things so as not to let them own/drive us ... so as to enjoy and accept that which comes about (even if, and especially if, it doesn't look exactly as expected).
I would say that when I look back ... I've chipped away at my understanding and true integration of detachment (the living of it, if you will). I expect that I'll continue to learn, understand and integrate this concept for the rest of my days.
Alas, right now ... I feel I've gained a beautiful and EXPERIENTIAL integration of it. A growth period. (yay me! wink.)
DAILY, I have taken to the habit (the to-me, oh-so-effective habit) of SEPARATING/DETACHING from any number of things. For example, how often do we truly attach ourselves to how our significant other does things, our okay-ness with it (or lack of okay-ness), our want to make it different (even if we tell ourselves we are helping ... tricky-slippery slope that helping thang!).
Anyway, I've been working daily to pause, and INTEND to separate from my husband. (POSITIVE separation) This concept of LETTING HIM BE HIM. ALLOWING ME TO BE ME.
It's a functional-meditative type thing. Pull out all of the ways that I impart my "Julie-ness on Guillermo." And, too, pull out all the ways that Guillermo imparts his "Guillermo-ness on Me." Ahhhhh, how very freeing and healthy, indeed!
It works wonders with other aspects of life as well. The sky's the limit!
Ask yourself ... is there anything happening for you right now that is occupying A LOT of your energy and thoughts? Perhaps a career move, a home move, a relationship hope/dream, a to-do list or ???
Regardless ... see and feel what you desire. THEN, detach from it. The to-do list concept illustrates nicely. Make your to-do list. Write it out. Know it's there. But, please don't be running around with "to-do list" energy in your space all the time. YIKES ... talk about racing and an inability to live in the moment.
You get the idea!
Perhaps you set aside a few minutes each morning and afternoon to intend to detach from a few things??
(like my last post ... maybe you see this 'energy' pulled out of your space much like the memories pulled out of the brain ... a la Harry Potter movies. Regardless, find a 'way' that works for YOU. It will surely lighten your load!)
NOW ... how about the FUN thing!?!!
That one is easy-schmeasy!
What Do You Like to Do For Fun?
Think about it a bit. After what activities do you find yourself smiling that authentic, visceral smile?
Write out a few things. Write out a ton of things!
Then ... like the daily detachment process ... MAKE SURE YOU INCLUDE A BIT O' FUN EACH AND EVERY DAY!
Detachment and FUN.
Attention to these two things has not only made my day-to-day more smooth, enjoyable, fun and with-ease. But, I think I'm a better ME as a result. (certainly a hell of a lot more fun to be around, for the love!)
Go and Live Life more Perfectly-You! Ahhhhhhhhhh!
With LOVE.
Detachment and FUN.
The reason I chose to group them together is that, as of late, (as I mature, grow, gain wisdom and functional tools), these two things STAND OUT as some of the most helpful "life-management" tools for me.
Looking back is always insight-full, right? When you can see more clearly your path ... which may include how you integrated an idea that perhaps you came across any number of times along the way.
Allow me to use DETACHMENT to get this point across. I've read many-a-passage, article, blurb, book that broached the idea of healthy detachment.
This idea of not being attached to anything, really.
This does not mean that we do not have hopes, cares, things for which we strive, etc.
Rather a healthy separation from such things so as not to let them own/drive us ... so as to enjoy and accept that which comes about (even if, and especially if, it doesn't look exactly as expected).
I would say that when I look back ... I've chipped away at my understanding and true integration of detachment (the living of it, if you will). I expect that I'll continue to learn, understand and integrate this concept for the rest of my days.
Alas, right now ... I feel I've gained a beautiful and EXPERIENTIAL integration of it. A growth period. (yay me! wink.)
DAILY, I have taken to the habit (the to-me, oh-so-effective habit) of SEPARATING/DETACHING from any number of things. For example, how often do we truly attach ourselves to how our significant other does things, our okay-ness with it (or lack of okay-ness), our want to make it different (even if we tell ourselves we are helping ... tricky-slippery slope that helping thang!).
Anyway, I've been working daily to pause, and INTEND to separate from my husband. (POSITIVE separation) This concept of LETTING HIM BE HIM. ALLOWING ME TO BE ME.
It's a functional-meditative type thing. Pull out all of the ways that I impart my "Julie-ness on Guillermo." And, too, pull out all the ways that Guillermo imparts his "Guillermo-ness on Me." Ahhhhh, how very freeing and healthy, indeed!
It works wonders with other aspects of life as well. The sky's the limit!
Ask yourself ... is there anything happening for you right now that is occupying A LOT of your energy and thoughts? Perhaps a career move, a home move, a relationship hope/dream, a to-do list or ???
Regardless ... see and feel what you desire. THEN, detach from it. The to-do list concept illustrates nicely. Make your to-do list. Write it out. Know it's there. But, please don't be running around with "to-do list" energy in your space all the time. YIKES ... talk about racing and an inability to live in the moment.
You get the idea!
Perhaps you set aside a few minutes each morning and afternoon to intend to detach from a few things??
(like my last post ... maybe you see this 'energy' pulled out of your space much like the memories pulled out of the brain ... a la Harry Potter movies. Regardless, find a 'way' that works for YOU. It will surely lighten your load!)
NOW ... how about the FUN thing!?!!
That one is easy-schmeasy!
What Do You Like to Do For Fun?
Think about it a bit. After what activities do you find yourself smiling that authentic, visceral smile?
Write out a few things. Write out a ton of things!
Then ... like the daily detachment process ... MAKE SURE YOU INCLUDE A BIT O' FUN EACH AND EVERY DAY!
Detachment and FUN.
Attention to these two things has not only made my day-to-day more smooth, enjoyable, fun and with-ease. But, I think I'm a better ME as a result. (certainly a hell of a lot more fun to be around, for the love!)
Go and Live Life more Perfectly-You! Ahhhhhhhhhh!
With LOVE.
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